tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2394835278337306813.post81702368672625303..comments2024-03-21T12:20:09.085+01:00Comments on Totally Frenched Out: Ksamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05991667611234163617noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2394835278337306813.post-13936152803011369742009-01-12T16:23:00.000+01:002009-01-12T16:23:00.000+01:00just found your 'new' blog and looking forward to ...just found your 'new' blog and looking forward to catching up with you. Happy New Year!Frankofilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01735463685466184020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2394835278337306813.post-54095647033712117542009-01-12T09:32:00.000+01:002009-01-12T09:32:00.000+01:00I regret that my husband speaks English so well an...I regret that my husband speaks English so well and prefers to use it. But that's mostly because he's impatient and doesn't like when I ask him to repeat something. I do think that it is easier for most of us to use our native languages. Sometimes my children will speak to me in French and I just can't bring myself to reply to them in French even though I can. It's just not natural for me. Plus I feel like they are losing their English and I want them to have some balance.<BR/><BR/>I would say not to stress over it.....do what feels comfortable for you. It's an evolution and when you're ready to let go of the English some more, you will.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2394835278337306813.post-13768841234734603392009-01-12T08:54:00.000+01:002009-01-12T08:54:00.000+01:00Alex and I don't really "argue" so thank goodness ...Alex and I don't really "argue" so thank goodness I don't need to argue in French except for the dimwits on the street--- Then I get to yell out all the slang terms I know in French and Alex chimes in... or I chime in with him, if he starts.. (This all takes place when he's driving and other drivers or pedestrians do infuriating things in front of the car....<BR/>It's different for me, as you know... Alex speaks only some phrases here and there in English... Oh.. I think his English is better than I think, as I have heard him use it with others, but since we never really speak in Eng., I cannot judge very well...islandgirl4ever2https://www.blogger.com/profile/11113491173234673894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2394835278337306813.post-82435784583625101152009-01-12T02:19:00.000+01:002009-01-12T02:19:00.000+01:00Haha, I remember finally being able to argue in Fr...Haha, I remember finally being able to argue in French, though I still do feel disadvantaged, like you. And of course there are those moments when English comes out instead of French and B says "Uh-oh! This is serious!"Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07100259488053106803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2394835278337306813.post-45926702619936792302009-01-11T21:45:00.000+01:002009-01-11T21:45:00.000+01:00It's amazing what you can do in your second langua...It's amazing what you can do in your second language when you have to. I had this huge - um - disagreement with someone a while ago, and he was so angry that he was actually spitting. I was furious right back, and we yelled at each other in French long enough that someone else came to the room and said, "Du calme là-bas!" Neither of us won (I just left the room), but I don't think he had the advantage because it was his native language, not mine. I had never had such an argument in French before, but I certainly held my own. While I didn't have the slang vocabulary he did, I think I got my point across quite well. I'll bet you could do it, too, Ksam - but it would be nicer if you never had to fight in any language, wouldn't it?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2394835278337306813.post-82629243566388098372009-01-11T16:35:00.000+01:002009-01-11T16:35:00.000+01:00I think when you meet the one that wants to be wit...I think when you meet the one that wants to be with you it really won't matter. I don't speak Dutch at all so if B did not speak perfect English that could be a problem! I do speak pretty good Spanish though and could be with someone that only spoke that but I cannot speak French well enough to have a conversation. I am not a person that has to be in control so it may be different for me.juliwaltershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00735271626260077159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2394835278337306813.post-19956470806931888542009-01-11T16:09:00.000+01:002009-01-11T16:09:00.000+01:00That is a tough one and I see points to both sides...That is a tough one and I see points to both sides. I do believe it is important for at least one of you to be able to converse effectively in both languages. I was involved with a French girl for some time but we soon found out that the other did not speak our own mother languages as effectively as we had thought. Well... she believed she spoke English well, but it was evident through many misunderstandings that she did not.<BR/><BR/>On a side note, one benefit for me when dating a Frenchie is when she got mad she would switch to yelling at me in French, and I certainly can tune out French much easier... so it made ignoring her very easy.<BR/><BR/>Yes this was a very healthy relationship, can you tell? Wonder why we did not work out, huh? So ended my attempts at dating the French... but Americans! ;-)Justinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11313092689739313021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2394835278337306813.post-53423242090883955972009-01-11T12:02:00.000+01:002009-01-11T12:02:00.000+01:00Funny, I could have written this myself except tha...Funny, I could have written this myself except that I am married already (to a non-American that speaks perfect English). As much as I want to advance my French, I still hold onto that English. Is it a control thing? I never thought about it that way. Hmmmmm!!!!Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00690371509283898482noreply@blogger.com